The former Senate Leader of the 7th National Assembly, Victor Ndoma-Egba SAN, said a year after the death of his wife, late Amaka Lauretta Ndoma-Egba, he “still hears her voice and feel her presence at home”.
Ndoma-Egba disclosed this at the Memorial Service for Amaka held in Our-Lady, Queen of Peace Catholic Church Parish in Akparabong, Ikom Local Government Area (LGA) of Cross River State at the weekend.
The widower added what he missed most about the deceased was her physical presence saying that her legacies on the children at home were still very impactful and evident.
The Senior Advocate of Nigeria (SAN) revealed the four stages of grief that he had to pass through after the loss of his wife and three other close relatives who died before her saying, “The first stage is that of emotion – which in self-denial you are saying, this hasn’t happened. Then you move from that stage to that of anger. Sheer anger; then you get to the stage of questioning virtually everything and then finally you come to the resolution stage where you come to terms with what had happened.
“I’ve had to go through all those four stages. I have gone even past the resolution stage to the stage where now I’m savouring the memories of the life we shared. I’m no longer angry. I’m no longer questioning, I just keep on remembering the life we shared.”
Recall that late Mrs Ndoma-Egba died in a ghastly motor accident along the Benin – Akure Expressway on her way to a function in Akure.
Earlier, the Senator lost his both his mother, mother-in-law and his media aide while his house was almost vandalized during the #EndSARS protest in Calabar.