Having taken her first official steps to walking down the aisle with Oladunni Churchill, actress Tonto Dikeh has been swept away by love.
She took to her Instagram to talk about her experience of emotions among other issues in a recent post:
God settled me with Oladunni Churchill.
Pure Joy. But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you…1 Peter 5:10.. Ooooo how God has settled me, Dancing like David danced.
The Obasanjo link
A big congratulations to us and thanks to everyone who wished us well and still wishing us.. Special thanks to My father-in-law, the ex-president of Nigeria Baba Obj and my lovely mother-in-law.. Exclusive Special thanks to my lovely father and best friend Chief Hon. Dikeh and also to the best Step Mom in the Whole world, who never ceases to pray for me… As you wish me may your Joy be full and mighty. I am a happy woman and nothing will ever take that away from me. I have the best mother-in-law and in-Laws any girl can wish for.
(Oladunni Churchill is said to be the nephew of former President Olusegun Obasanjo).
My finding love again
Catch flights don’t catch feelings? So tell me, what is your reason for being? The purpose of your existence? The same reasons why many of us are here in the first place… I don’t mean to kill the Boss attitudes, but I work with bosses all the time. The people who prioritised work over relationships aren’t happy with their Lives. You have to be able to find a balance. Yes we all have an economic reality, But No, money can’t love you. Be happy at every opportunity, never repress your love for the sake of trying to make enough money” What is enough? Can you feed your self? Do you have a bed to sleep in at night? Yet you want a bigger bed, forgetting that you could be looking for someone to share it with. Dont miss out on a family just for money…
Don’t turn into a bitter and cynical person because you were in love once and it didn’t work out… Yes, you invest emotional energy into your partner,but you will always have more energy…. You have a lot of Love to Give. Energy can’t be destroyed so you can’t say it was wasted. Your partner cheated on you… Doesn’t mean all humans are cheats. My ex was a cheat, a prolific internet whore and a fake but that didn’t stop me from loving even harder the next time… You have to be in it to win it. Building breakable barriers will leave you lonely. Loneliness would leave you Sad. If you don’t allow people to get close to you then yes you might not hurt, but you will never Feel. Feelings are just visitors, let them come and go. So catch feelings and flights, but don’t forget love, because that is what all humans need. Don’t let modern trends change your mindset in Cynical ways… Living a life without love, is not living at all.
Dealing with men who have nothing to offer
Some people are beautiful not in looks, not in what they say but in who they truly are. True beauty doesn’t beg for attention. It doesn’t care for likes and mentions. It cannot be quantified by aesthetics. It is a deep and purposeful truth, acknowledged by the soul. My sisters, don’t delay your marital blessings/happiness just because you want the Instagram fame. Don’t give your self too much prayer points in the future when you can decently correct your now, now… At the end of the day, the same guys you nude for today will be the ones to marry off your juniors and rubbish your name and you might miss out on a lot of blessings (contracts/endorsements/etc). Remember we live in Africa where a wrong negative words imprinted in the hearts of others, told by others can ruin your life… Be wise today my darlings.
Hang on let me get this straight, you expect a Queen to be intelligent, sexy, sophisticated, ambitious, successful, not slept with any people you might know, honest, funny, kind, caring, aesthetically attractive to you, strong, doesn’t consider you a financial plan, self confident, loyal…
Amazing body, great with kids, witty, looks after you, cook, clean, generally sort your life out, style you, give you great massages, workout with you. Be friends with your mom when you don’t wanna be friends with your mum. Organize your schedule. Make enough money to support you both if you ever need it, but not more than you. Smile whenever you tell her to, basically not breathe… Dress up for Sex but not dress up too much when she goes out… But all you have to offer her is your manhood. Ladies Don’t let no man sap all of your energy and love when he obviously have nothing to offer you asides from good sex. I’ve been there, done that and trust me, I ran away. Most annoying is when you as a woman have to be th bread winner and still receive nothing but the manhood.
A good dick never built a house or paid the rent, a hardworking dedicated supportive man does…”